Taking Time Out For Yourself

just breathe

I couldn’t help but check the astrological calendar this morning to see if Mercury is in retrograde, because my life just seems to be a bit too hectic lately. According to the calendar, the dates are Oct 4-25, so I cringe to think of what can happen.   As a working mother, my life is nonstop! As a business owner, life can be somewhat stressful. As a person, I am a bit tightly wound, very OCD and extremely passionate about my business–stir that all together and I pretty much have the force of a tornado. With that said, I have to make sure that I take time out of all the businesses to find time to decompress, otherwise KABOOM. I have to admit, this is a bit easier said than done because I am a work junkie. It’s really hard when you love what you do, because you don’t always want to get off the ride.   However as my kids start to get older, I have realized the importance of quality family time and just taking time out of my day for me.

spa day with friends

This past summer, I decided to disconnect from business for 3 whole weeks. This was huge for me. For the first time in my work history, I didn’t read or respond to work emails and I just spent my days relaxing and traveling with my family. With having that down time, I feel like I’ve years added back to my life. I was able to go back to work fully recharged and ready to climb Mount Everest. Since not everybody is going to be able to take large chunks out of their schedules, it’s really important to make the most of your time during the week. Some of the things I do are:

  1. Keeping organized (there’s nothing but structure in our house from weekly planned out meals to recorded schedules). For me, the routine lends itself to calm the crazed energy down in our house.
  2. Turn off and be willing to step away from the technology–especially at night and when driving!!!! In the past I would wake up in the middle of the night to read a text or an email; don’t do it!!!
  3. Exercise: Do yoga, meditate, go for a walk, swim–get your blood flowing.   Find the time to make this happen.
  4. Have a spa day once in a while. Massages do wonders; if not go for a mani or pedi, get your hair cut.
  5. Read a book: The only time I ever seem to read a book is when I’m on vacation.
  6. Go out with friends: Have lunch or dinner dates.
  7. Take a long hot relaxing bath; soak in a hot tub.
  8. Have a date night with your spouse or significant other.
  9. Eat well and healthy. Have a glass of wine, but be sure not to over indulge. Drink plenty of water.
  10. Take vitamins and minerals to boost your immune system.
  11. Hire someone to clean your house–even if it’s every other week this is so worth it.
  12. Take weekend trips if you can; if not, take a day trip to the beach or lake will do wonders
  13. Listen to music: For me, I’m all about the 70’s.   Playing calm music has a positive effect on the brain and body, can lower blood pressure, and reduce cortisol, a hormone linked to stress.
  14. Laugh!!!!
  15. Do Breathing exercises.

These are some of the things I’ve been practicing lately and I have to say they have helped me tremendously!

Written by Terri / Published by Jennifer


By |September 9th, 2014|General, life|0 Comments

Plan B: The Emergency Backup Party Plan


This past week the Napa Valley experienced a 6.1 earthquake. In the 11 years that I have lived in Napa, this was my family’s first real quake. After the ground stopped shaking and the lights went out, we all kicked into emergency mode. Thankfully for us it only meant pulling out our flashlights, camping lanterns and cell phones, but with all that we went through I could not help but thinking about emergency plans– everything from quakes to children’s birthday parties. Whether you are hiring a company to host your child’s event or planning your own party, it is extremely important to have an emergency backup plan for your event. When hiring an event planner or character company, please do your research on the company before booking with them. icon_yelpJust because a company comes up in the search engine first and has a good looking website, doesn’t mean they are the company for you. I am not a proponent of Yelp, but they are one of the more reliable public review systems around. Check out any potential companies to see what people are saying about them first. Get referrals from friends and coworkers as recommendations are always wise.

imagesCI8PHKMRAs consumers, we all know that life happens and people get sick and unexpected situations occur like inclement weather.If something unexpected happens, don’t panic. I always say that things happen for a reason and there are times when you just have to go with the flow. I can’t tell you how many calls I get each week hearing that companies have had to cancel for one reason or another on a booking. We are only human after all, and this is a reality with any business. What defines the caliber of a company though, is how they deal with those unexpected moments when they occur. If you find yourself in a situation where a company cancels on you at the last minute, the first thing to do is hold that company responsible by having them help you find a replacement. It always upsets me when I get the frantic calls from clients, because the company that backed down on them gave them a list of places to call– that is not cool in my book. As far as I am concerned, they should be contacting other companies on your behalf because it is the least they can do for canceling the event. If an alternate business is unavailable, you can choose to use a different type of entertainer or company. Bounce house companies usually have a lot of availability or you may try contacting a face painter, balloon twister or puppeteer. If none of those are an option for you, you may have to fly solo.

If you have no other entertainment scheduled, you can do simple things depending on the theme. Remember though, early planning is the key. I also advise to keep parties to a inimum with 2-3hours max.

  • Crafts: Children love to make things. Depending on the age group, your craft idea can be something as simple as decorating a frame, magic mirror, treasure chest or making anMain-Party-Crafts ocean in a bottle. These items are all inexpensive things to do and materials can be easily found at places like Michaels, Walmart, Holly Lobby and Joann Fabrics. FYI, Melissa & Doug offers great princess mirrors to decorate and pirate chests. They can also serve as a take-home favor if they are too pricey.
  • Activities: Decorating cupcakes or cookies can go with almost any theme and is also very inexpensive to do.
  • Dress up: For princess parties gather up any costumes that you might have around the house. These can be dance costumes from past recitals, Halloween costumes, etc. Ask your friends to borrow some of their kid’s things for the party. If you’re having a princess party, purchase some cheap nail polish and simple makeup from Target. You can also buy small little plastic clips and elastics to do hair twists or french braids. Call in a babysitter or two to help out at the party or an older sibling or friend.
  • Theme activities & games: Keep in mind your theme. For example, if having a Faerie party you can have the children pot pretty flowers for them to water and take home. Lead them on a faerie hunt around the garden. Print out theme related coloring pages that they can color in with crayons or colored pencils. For boys, pull out the sporting equipment–soccer and basket balls, badminton nets, ring toss etc. Play simple games: sack races, Simon says, tug of war, musical chairs, duck duck goose. Use whatever you have. Put together a scavenger hunt. Go to the party store and get some inexpensive prizes. Kids love prizes and goody bags!
  • Tattoos: Temporary or glitter. Oriental Trading (purchase in advance) you can find them in bulk or find them at a local party store.
  • Lunch: Serve snacks or lunch; get a piñata.

The idea is to keep these things in the back of your brain because they can really help save you if a company backs down on you at the last minute. With all these things up your sleeve, 2 hours will fly by for you and everyone will have a fun time!

Written by Terri / Published by Jennifer

By |August 27th, 2014|Birthday Party Ideas and Tips|1 Comment

Back to School

back-to-school-jarsWow, I can hardly believe that school will start this week for many of our kids.  We hope that everyone had a wonderful summer.  As a working parent, we all know the importance of being organized.  As my kids get older and we move onto a different stage, being organized and efficient is extremely important to us and definitely for my own sanity. My daughters and I did a massive purging and redesigning of their rooms about a week ago.  A Target run for school supplies soon followed, several trips to the local malls for needed things, and of course my reconnecting with school tutors was a must!  I then had to work on and purge my own office space which is the control center in our house.  It’s amazing how disastrous drawers and cupboards can become by the end of the school year.  With a clean eraser board, I have started writing in everyone’s activities and have begun thinking about our Fall dinner schedule.  This may seem extreme to many, but when you’re a full-time working parent it really helps keep your home life peaceful.   My need for structure came about 6.5 years ago when I started running The Cinderella Co.  Working 5 days a week from 8:30-5 left me little time to get things done.  I found that as a parent, I was dropping the ball by forgetting to get certain things done.  I also found that I had little patience by the end of the work day because I was exhausted and our family meals were less than par.  And then there were the stressful mornings when someone couldn’t locate a needed item and that set off a chain reaction of everyone starting the day off in a bad mood which so not fun and counter productive.
So here are some of the things that have helped me.
*  Try to utilize space as best as possible.  I have a small house so this is very important for us.  
*  Label things:  My kids have plastic drawers and containers in their closets which are all labeled.
*  Draw dividers:  Separate things out.  Ex. Socks and underwear, tanks, scarves, etc
*  Maintain!  You need to purge the junk out.  Only keep what is important and get rid of the rest.  I know we tend to want to hold onto our kid’s work when they are young, but by the end of the year if you don’t sort through it you will have piles of this stuff on your hands.  Keep the important stuff.
*  Plan ahead.  When my girls were younger, I had them set their school clothes out the night before.
*  Laundry Day:  During the school year, I designate one day if not two for laundry and ironing so everything was ready to go by Monday.  If your kids go to a private school, no one wants a wrinkled uniform.
*  Lunch:  My kids always want to know what they’re having for lunch so we have a lunch schedule as well.
*  School Supplies:  My kids keep their schools supplies in their rooms and I have a backup in my office.  You can never have too many erasers, pencils or highlighters.
* School Binder.  Every year we get inundated with school papers and it drives me crazy because they just pile up and get lost. I find keeping a school binder in my office really helps by dividing things out.
* Plan your meals!  This is one of the greatest things that has helped my family.  You don’t have to follow it to the letter, but having a general idea of what you are going to serve on certain days will save you so much time and alleviate so much stress.  Ex.  On the days that kids have major activities, planning something quick and easy is the way to go.  Everyone in my house appreciates this because they know what to expect.  I also love using the crockpot in the fall and winter.
Office Calendar:  Not only do I highlight and record certain events on my desk calendar, but for certain events, I record it a month or two earlier.  Ex.  Birthdays, xmas photos, etc.  Time just creeps up on us and then we’re scrambling to get things done.
These are just some of the things to think about as we enter into the fall season.  Hope this helps.
By |August 17th, 2014|Organization|Comments Off on Back to School